Brene Brown - courage takes vulnerability

Saw an incredible Ted Talk by Brene Brown. Resonated with how I'm feeling at the moment, being completely out of my depth and out of control. Reflecting on how I operate,

I feel like I’ve fallen - doing STLP and being away from work familiy

Getting back up - spoke to Tim, spoke to MS student, realizing how I need to be brave, vulnerable and talk to others'. Today I spoke to Amal, Shana and Leanne. Had discussions around how to get inducted into the lab and parking - two ridiculous questions I've been sitting on for two weeks now, once asked felt such relief. Am left to my own devises here and I need to be more proactive.

Brene Brown

Courage, resilience, shame 

Daring classrooms

Is courage when you show up and be seen even when you don’t know the outcome

You can teach courage, you can develop it in yourself and others

4 important skills in courage

Vulnerability

Clarity of values

trust

Rise up - the ability to get back up

What gets in the way -

Vulnerability - really show up and let people in, no love no belonging no joy without vulnerability, what to people do who lean into joy - gratitude - instead they dress rehearse tragedy - build joy instead - reminder to be grateful rather than revel in tragedy or plan for bad stuff.  Need vulnerability to have innovation and creativity.  

It’s the birthplace of everything we want more of in our lives - 

Learning is inherently vulnerable - we have a classroom of turtles without shells - as soon as there is shame, then the shell comes on - learning can’t happen then

Shame - cannot be vulnerable with shame - shaming changes the way people think about themselves,

Shame makes us feel we don’t deserve love - being not loveable

A power differential impacts on shame

Shame - I am bad - I’m useless - I’m no good, self - it cannot survive being spoken - then its embarrassment - you believe your alone - I deserve what happened - closely linked to addiction, crime etc - secrecy, silence and judgement - these 3 things make it grow

Guilt - I did something bad - behaviour

Humiliation - I did not deserve what happened

Embarrassing - fleeting, we know this has happened to others’  we can talk about it or laugh about it

What’s the antidote to shame - empathy

What did this mean/like for you

Tell me why this was painful?

When people are talking about hate - switch the word out for pain